9/8/12

sniff the pits

Yoo. This is just a really weird rant. The last two paragraphs are in honor of SlutWalk.

I don't even know what I'm talking about. EW I just drank luke warm milk and it's literally so disgusting I actually want to barf it up. Ew that was so nasty.

The other day/yesterday, in Health and Wellness class, we were talking about what we'd like to talk about (ha). We were also talking about offending people with what we wear, and I was just like, "aw fucking ey." Like, if you wear a shirt that says, like, "DIE REPUBLICANS" obviously that's offensive, but to me, wearing a shirt that has a few swear words on it is entirely not offensive at all. My super best friend Natalie who is awesome, was all like, "How are you supposed to even know what's offensive if we're told to suppress everything we believe in," which is just too genius for words. My school doesn't have a dress code, other than the obvious of like, don't come to school naked, don't promote drugs/alcohol, etc, so I feel like it's really hypocritical of them to tell us we can't wear "offensive clothing" when there aren't even guidelines as to what "offensive" is. I think if a person wears a shirt that expresses an opinion, they have the right to wear it. And OH MY GOD. In middle school, they were like "Your skirts can only be 4 inches above your knee, because otherwise it's distracting for your male classmates AND your male teachers." Um, EXCUSE ME? First of all, don't teach children to be ashamed of their bodies, or that they need to cover up their bodies because the human body is "distracting." Like, what shit heads. Not only that, but WHAT A FUCKING DOUBLE STANDARD. They tell US GIRLS, that we can't show "too much leg/boobage," and yet it's TOTALLY OKAY for guys to sag. I'm not saying guys shouldn't be allowed to sag, I'm saying if girls have to "cover up," then guys should too. I can't wait to bitch slap half the teachers in my middle school. They sucked fucking shit. Obviously there are boundaries, but just SHUT YOUR FACES UGHHH. And ALSO, distracting male teachers? NASTY TO THE EXTREME, EXCUSE ME? HOW NASTY IS THAT? Oh, and then they were all like, "no cleavage." Well, excuse me if some girls have big boobs. Does that mean they need to wear turtlenecks? WHAT IS WRONG WITH SOCIETY?!?!?!?!?!

I'm trying to get back into doing outfit posts and stuff, but my outfits are really boring. I'm just getting really into art as well as doing well in school, and although I love fashion and clothes, I'm sort of tired of experimenting and wearing crazy shit, feeling awkward and uncomfortable, and blah. I completely admire and love the people who are so outgoing with the things they wear, and I've always been like "be like tavi, be fearless" but I feel awkward wearing these really crazy ensembles that don't express who I am. I think I'm just going to allow myself to just naturally fall into step with my style. I think fashion and self expression are beyond important, but I'm also figuring out that there are other ways of expressing yourself other than through getting dressed, such as art and expressing your beliefs and opinions in situations. Like, the other day, my friends and I were talking about how this guy was facebook stalking my friend, and we were just laughing at how it was kinda funny, and then my friend was like "It's okay for girls to facebook stalk, and like really old photos of people, but guys can't do that." And I just said "Well that's a gross double standard."

I also feel like it's really hard to like... express to people why slut shaming is wrong. My friends were talking about how this girl at our school had had sex with this one guy multiple times, they weren't even friends, blah blah, and how she was such a slut. And like, how are you supposed to be like "don't slut shame," because some people may not understand what slut shaming is. It was also annoying because the guy she was having sex with was having sex with the girl just as many times as she was having sex with him, OBVIOUSLY, and yet my friends didn't even blink an eye. I think blogging and Rookie have opened my eyes to so many double standards and so much sexism (and it's sad, because girls can we sooooo sexist towards other girls!) and it's just like, how do you explain to people why it's so wrong?

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7 comments:

  1. YES YES YES I TOTALLY AGREE WITH 100% OF THIS! GO EVA!!! THANK YOU FOR GETTING THIS OUT THERE!!! GO NATALIE TOO!
    ~maren~

    oh and thanks for your comments! They were super nice!

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  2. um YES. YES.

    I actually wrote a debate speech about taking out the dress code of the middle school because i was SO SICK OF IT.

    Like OH MY GOD HER TANK TOP STRAPS ARE LESS THAN TWO INCHES WIDE I LITERALLY CANNOT THINK ABOUT MATH NOW. um, no?

    You rock. I also agree it's really hard to explain slut shaming to people. Once I was telling someone how I never use the term slut in a derogetory way, and how i don't judge people on their sexual activity. And they were like "so... if someone our age had sex, YOU'D BE OKAY WITH THAT?" And I was like, "Chill, bra. It's not my place" And they were like *0*

    I should probably stop talking (writing) now cuz I'm really tired and this probably does not make sense.

    Love,
    Gwen
    http://under-a-bridge.blogspot.com/

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    1. No, dude!! I totally get what you mean!!!

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  3. agree!!!


    xo

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  4. I agree, as usual. In my school we have a uniform. Also, We're not allowed to wear skirts more than 2 inches above the knee. I find it so frustrating. Like, Whats wrong with my legs??? But what also annoys me is when a girl does rebel and wears her skirt how short and tight she likes it, my friends have a conversation about how her skirt is waaay too short. And the thing is, the girl in question, I know they really envy her. They envy her popularity and good grades and her personal style. They've told me. So they're always bitching about her. I agree- it's so hard to just be like 'stop with the girl hate, guys. stop slut shaming' I wish everyone would just read Rookie and read feminist zines and we'd be okay.

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  5. I AGREE SO FUCKING MUCH. At my school we have the most disgusting uniform ever and one time people were complaining about male teachers perving at them and they said that they 'HAD NO CHOICE BUT TO LOOK'. Seriously???? They have so little self control??? What the actual fuck? Thank you for writing this, bookmarkig and rereading forver.
    xxxx

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  6. I hate the 'too short' rule. I get that teachers and adults don't want us to seem too 'sexual' and that's fine, but they shouldn't be allowed to dictate what we wear. I have really long legs and a short torso, so things seem super short on me, which is terrible because people are like 'You look like a fucking slut'.

    Also, what the fuck is with the male teachers!? They shouldn't be looking anyway.

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